7 Phrases That Could Be Ruining Your Relationship
"I'm sorry, but..."
Even the most heartfelt apology can be negated if it's followed by the word "but". It implies a lack of integrity, invalidates the apology, and turns a positive statement into a negative one.
"Yea? Well, you..."
Turning the tables on your partner shuts down meaningful conversation. Rather than feeling heard and valued, your partner feels attacked and the real issue isn't getting addressed.
The surest way to exacerbate an argument is by making blanket, and often untrue, statements about what your partner always does. You partner will feel like you're attacking their character on top of whatever it is you're arguing about.
No, you're not. And your partner knows you're not. It's ok to need some space after a heated exchange, just be sure to eventually communicate your feelings rather than shut down the conversation entirely.
"I told you..."
The "I told you so" game isn't fun for anyone. Using this phrase sounds like you are against your partner, when you really should be reminding them that you're on one another's sides.
"You're just like..."
Pointing out the similarities between your partner and someone they don't want to be is just cruel. Your partner will likely shut down and the issue will not get resolved.
Trying to diffuse a situation with this phrase will only hurt your partner. It makes your partner feel like their feelings are unjustified and leaves them feeling unheard and belittled.