Can You Peacefully Disagree?
One of the truest signs of maturity is the ability to disagree with someone while still remaining respectful.
- Dave Willis
No one likes to feel uncomfortable. In today’s world, however, current events, uncertainty and political differences create many opportunities for disagreement. You can build connections and relationships with others by trying to find common ground.
When you notice yourself getting upset or cutting others off when they are talking, it’s wise to pause and reset. Some of the ways you can keep disagreements constructive are:
Keep It Neutral By Not Making It Personal: Show that you genuinely care by listening, paying attention and asking clarifying questions about the other person’s perspective. If you disagree with them and begin to feel upset, remember that you are mad at the idea an individual is raising, not the person themself. Try instead to say something along the lines of, “You do make some fair points, like X and Y. I disagree with Z, though, and here is why.”
Model Good Behavior: Avoid raising your voice, using sarcasm, or making derogatory comments, and speak calmly instead. This gives you a better chance of getting your point across and being heard.
Understand Differences: Mutual respect comes when you understand that opinions grow from distinct experiences and environments. Remembering that can make it easier to feel empathy and find understanding or at least arrive at a place where you can agree to avoid the topic in the future.
By being respectful in both your words and actions, you can continue to build understanding relationships with others and, when needed, successfully agree to disagree.
