Ways To Support a Loved One Who Has Cancer
When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer, it’s natural to want to help, but knowing how to do so can be challenging. While it may initially feel uncomfortable, reaching out and offering support is one of the most powerful ways to show you care.
Here are a few ways you can help your loved one during their cancer journey.
Be present and validate their feelings. Cancer comes with a roller coaster of emotions, and as a loved one, you can be a source of comfort. You can gently ask if they want to discuss what they’re feeling or if they’d prefer a distraction. Most importantly, remind them you are there for them and demonstrate it through your actions.
Offer practical help. Asking for help isn’t easy for many people, especially someone going through cancer. Instead of waiting for them to reach out, consider offering specific help, such as driving them to their appointment, providing child care or even doing the dishes. Even small gestures, such as bringing a meal over or providing a food delivery for their family, can make a big difference in easing the burden and stress, helping them feel less alone.
Continue to include them. Cancer can be isolating. Appointments, treatments, fatigue and stress may make it challenging for your loved one to stay socially connected. It’s essential to continue inviting them to activities and let them decide if they can join. Some cancer patients are wary of interactions that may compromise their immune system. Let them know there’s no pressure and that you won’t take it personally if they decline. What matters most is reminding them they’re valued, included and cared for.
Educate yourself. A serious medical diagnosis like cancer comes with complex medical terms that can seem like an overwhelming new language. Learning about your loved one’s specific type of cancer can help you better understand what they’re facing and allow you to be more present and engaged. Don’t hesitate to ask questions. Staying informed can also help you support them in decision-making if needed. However, always be respectful of their choices when it comes to treatment and care.
Practice self-care. Supporting a loved one who is coping with a cancer diagnosis is challenging. Remember to take time to care for yourself. Setting boundaries, practicing self-care and talking to other loved ones can help you recharge.
No matter how big or small your efforts may be, your presence, compassion and willingness to walk beside your loved one can provide comfort, strength and hope during one of the most difficult times in their life.
